Self-belief is a wonderful thing – but there is no magic in it. The formula for self-belief is simple. Everyone is different but there are a lot of similarities in how we all get there. This is what worked for me.
I stopped letting shame shut me down..
…with narratives like “I’m not good enough,” “I won’t do it perfectly so I won’t try.” “I’m not ready,” “it’s not the right time” or “it won’t work.” Taking action is what builds confidence and self-belief – avoiding it through fear just reinforces the idea that you’re not capable.
I learned to listen to what I think..
… without polling other people, asking for advice or thinking someone else knows what’s best for me. TRUST ME when I say that only you know what is right for you. And if that sounds arrogant to you then you have work to do on self-belief. The reality is that any advice you get from other people is coming through the lens of their fears, limitations and failures. It’s never objective no matter how impressive they sound.
I stopped dismissing my ideas, thoughts, desires and dreams..
or or calling them “silly” or “unrealistic.” Every thought you have is a communication from one part of you to another. Listen to them – especially if they seem like they are coming from a young part of you because that’s where the Original You resides. And OG you is the essence of you, the root of your authenticity, the foundation of self-belief.
I got over my fear of judgment from others…
…by shifting my focus from the opinions and expectations of others to what I thought and what I felt. If you’re someone who is hypervigilant and always trying to interpret what others are thinking you need to redirect that energy back to what YOU think.
I started doing things differently…
When your habit is to criticise, doubt and undermine yourself, sometimes all you need to get started with self belief is to just do one thing differently every day. Break the habit and show yourself another way is possible.
This is how I developed the audacity to believe in myself – and it can work for you too. If you’d like to work on your self-belief and confidence then we can make a start today. Book a free 10 min intro call to find out more.
