What is resilience? 

Resilience is the flexibility that allows us to bend and flex like a tree in a storm, not just surviving but able to thrive when the storm passes. “Toughness” =rigidity and that’s what leads to us breaking when conditions are rough. 

Mental flexibility is rooted in self-compassion – this is what gives us what we need to deal better with failure, try again, get creative, to not believe the shaming or critical voices in our head or around us and to champion ourselves 24/7.

Although resilience is about bouncing back when something is hard – it’s also about thriving in your life (springing forward). 

• The Bounce Back. Being able to adapt and be flexible during challenging times, stay resourceful and find solutions – and not give up. For this you need a flexible mindset and the ability to manage your emotions, as well as an understanding of your nervous system. Because you can’t bounce back, adapt or find solutions if you’re in fight, flight, freeze.
• The Spring Forward. Healing, accepting + knowing yourself to create a strong foundation of authenticity. Being able to transform your life, rise up and expand to reach goals and dreams. For this you need  to understand the impact of your past and remove mental limits it created e.g. shame, negativity + imposter syndrome, find motivation, purpose and vision – and to permanently switch your inner narrative from paralysing self-criticism to productive self-compassion.

Whether it’s the bounce back or the spring forward you are after, the same set of tools is going to get you there: mindset change, habit shifts, authenticity work, emotional regulation, nervous system flexibility and releasing the grip of the past – my resilience model, basically.