What is resilience?
Resilience is the flexibility that allows us to bend and flex like a tree in a storm, not just surviving but able to thrive when the storm passes. “Toughness” =rigidity and that’s what leads to us breaking when conditions are rough.
Mental flexibility is rooted in self-compassion – this is what gives us what we need to deal better with failure, try again, get creative, to not believe the shaming or critical voices in our head or around us and to champion ourselves 24/7.
Although resilience is about bouncing back when something is hard – it’s also about thriving in your life (springing forward).
- The Bounce Back. Being able to adapt and be flexible during challenging times, stay resourceful and find solutions – and not give up. For this you need a flexible mindset and the ability to manage your emotions, as well as an understanding of your nervous system. Because you can’t bounce back, adapt or find solutions if you’re in fight, flight, freeze.
- The Spring Forward. Healing, accepting + knowing yourself to create a strong foundation of authenticity. Being able to transform your life, rise up and expand to reach goals and dreams. For this you need to understand the impact of your past and remove mental limits it created e.g. shame, negativity + imposter syndrome, find motivation, purpose and vision – and to permanently switch your inner narrative from paralysing self-criticism to productive self-compassion.
Whether it’s the bounce back or the spring forward you are after, the same set of tools is going to get you there: mindset change, habit shifts, authenticity work, emotional regulation, nervous system flexibility and releasing the grip of the past – my resilience model, basically.

Shore Coaching
How I work with resilience
6 or 9 x 45-60 minute sessions where you’ll learn everything you need to develop the resilient traits on the left and remove what’s in the way of you feeling confident, motivated, creative, calm and authentically you.
Resilience coaching is practical and action-driven and I am a creative and intuitive coach who also values structure, progress, science and behavioural science.
Want to know more? Book in a free intro call and I’ll explain how this process might work for you.
Resilience is not…
Resilience is one of those words that has been over-marketed, usually to sell ultra sports events, protein powder or waterproofs. It is frequently narrowly viewed and misdefined, often as “toughness.” When you’re answering “what is resilience?” it’s often just as useful to clarify what resilience is not.. none of the things below will make you resilient – in fact, they re going to make resilience a lot harder.
- Being ‘tough,’ strong and silent
- Ignoring your feelings
- Putting up walls to hide who you are
- Ignoring conversations you need to have
- Perfectionism and unrealistic standards
- Ignoring intuition because it’s woo
- Focusing on others’ expectations and judgments over your own self-knowing
- Dismissing self-care, self-compassion and openness as weak, indulgent or soft
- Denying yourself what you really need because it doesn’t fit with the idea you have of who you ‘should’ be.


I feel like I know myself better..
Immy
“Not only do I feel like I know myself better but I have started to look at my feelings in a completely new light. I’m no longer scared of them but ready to give them space to serve their purpose and use them to identify and work on the parts of myself that need to be looked into further.”