Coaching – life coaching, resilience coaching, transformational coaching, whatever the term used or the type of coaching you opt for – will all have a similar goal at heart. The coach will work with you to help you achieve something that you want. That could be managing a transition from one job to another, it could be getting yourself out of a situation where you feel very stuck or finding new opportunities to make connections with other people. You might want to work with a coach to get some clarity on what comes next for you or to create a strategy to manage a difficult situation. There are no really rules for what you can and can’t cover.
Coach vs mentor, therapist, trainer
When you’re working with a coach you will get support, guidance and just the right level of challenge to help you find a way out of your comfort zone and into a place where you can do more with your life. Although there is some crossover with mentoring, therapy and training there are some key distinctions to note.
- Coaching is forward looking. Therapy/counselling often involves examining your past and talking in depth about what has happened to you. While this may come up in a session, and you may talk about why this resonates right now, the purpose of coaching is to look ahead, not back.
- The flow of information in coaching is client to coach. Coaches ask questions so that you can get to the solutions yourself rather than being given the answers. This tends to make the process more sustainable in the long term.
- Coaching is highly interactive. In fact, other than the first session you can expect to do most of the talking. The process works best for those who are willing to engage and do the work.
I recently polled people on Instagram to find out the most pressing questions about coaching – these are some of the things that came up.
Can coaching help me with a relationship or is it career based?
Coaching can support you in whatever you want to do next, whatever you feel is missing – even if you don’t know exactly what that is. These are just some of the things that have come up in coaching sessions:
- I want to find my tribe
- I want to feel less alone
- I want to be better with money
- I want to be more confident making decisions
- How do I build this career?
- I want to find my purpose
- I don’t know how to be confident
- Dating frightens me
- I need to move on from my divorce/redundancy/loss/illness/friendship break-up
- I feel like I want to know myself better
- How do I hear, and use, my instinct?
- I want to build a family life
- How can I make a career from creativity?
Why do you think coaching can be successful?
It’s a combination of “shoot for the moon” and practical, logical strategy. I coach based on the approach of a series of small steps. We talk, I ask questions and the result is a series of milestones with some achievable practical action points for each one. The focus is not on getting from zero to the overall goal in one big effort but on the small steps. These steps are a stretch but not too far and progress is continuous. That – and the support of someone who knows how to ask the right questions (the coach) – is why I think this works.
What kind of coach are you?
I’ve trained in transformational coaching which focuses on (surprise!) helping people achieve transformation in their lives where something needs to shift. I focus a lot on resilience as I think this is where the seeds of growth and confidence come from.
What is the most popular motivation/reason clients seek coaching for?
Clarity is a big one. Feeling confused and not knowing what you want to do next but having a sense that something needs to shift. Coping with fear is also a theme – especially when that fear is holding you back but you don’t know how to get out from under it. I think wanting to live life to the fullest is also another very popular reason. Many of us start to recognise that we’re the ones holding ourselves back and that’s where coaching can be a really useful tool – to move past that and start backing ourselves for success.
Is there anyone who wouldn’t be right for coaching?
No! Coaching requires openness and a willingness to show up, communicate and do the work between sessions but as long as you’re there for that then you will get a lot from it. My only caveat to that would be that sometimes you may need a different kind of support – for example if you have a childhood trauma you need to work through I would probably recommend you saw a therapist either at the same time or before continuing sessions with me.
What’s the practical commitment?
6 sessions of 45-60 mins via Zoom. Once a week or once a fortnight. But if you find during the 6 sessions that it’s not working out then you can stop at any time. Equally, if you end up wanting to go beyond 6 that is do-able too.
Why do you coach?
I know this sounds cheesy AF but human beings are amazing. We are all capable of so much more and most of us don’t realise that we’re probably not using 90% of the resources and mental capacity we have. I have been there and I know how stuck/scared/low/uninspired etc feels. Being able to gently guide, support and challenge people to start stepping into their potential is a wonderful thing.
If you would like to find out more about coaching I offer a free 20 minute discovery session. Get in touch to find out more.