“Why don’t I get the opportunities I feel like I deserve in life?”
Whether or not you’ve said it out loud, I bet there have been moments when you’ve thought this. I’ve heard versions of it in coaching sessions many times.
The answer?
Well, it could be complex. There is no denying that factors like structural inequality, generational wealth, immature parenting and discrimination all play a part.
But on a very basic level the answer for many of us is not because you’re not capable, unlucky or bad at selling yourself. More likely, it’s because you believe something about yourself that is holding you back.
E.g. I’m not good enough. I don’t deserve it. I can’t do it. Sound familiar?
Your mind will never prove you wrong..
When we buy into beliefs like this (even if we don’t realise we are doing it), it creates a confirmation bias that means your mind only looks for evidence that will confirm what you believe.
So, the most amazing opportunities could be right under your nose and you just wouldn’t see them. (Ask me about the Reticular Activating System if you want to know which part of the brain is doing this).
So make sure you’re clear on those limiting beliefs
The solution? Get clear on those limiting beliefs. If they are blindly drive your thoughts, actions and choices, change them.
Stop living in out of date ideas about who you are and what you’re capable of.
I get it. If it was as easy as deciding to change those beliefs today, nobody would feel like this ever again, right?
But achieving this kind of change is why resilience coaching exists. You have options. There is no resilience if your conscious and unconscious mind are pulling in different directions. To experience life from a fully resilient place you need to be clear on what your beliefs are and – if they are negative or holding you back – start to change them.
This exactly why I developed my 6-week coaching programme Change Your Mindset, which provides a simple structure for this kind of change: a mindset plan, live sessions on confidence, lifting mental limits and overcoming negativity, as well as 1:1 coaching. We start on 15th Jan and, if you’ve been thinking about joining, it’s almost your last chance to do it. Don’t sleep on this opportnunity for such transformative change!
How does resilience coaching help with limiting beliefs?
Whether through Change Your Mindset or 1:1 coaching, we will work together on uprooting the beliefs that are stopping you from getting those great opportunities at work, in love and in life in general – and replace them with authentic optimism.
You’ll realise that you have a lot more influence over outcomes than you thought. And learn the simplest ways to start shifting the momentum in your life to something more positive.
If you’re ready to stop living in the shadow of your past and create a life that reflects who you are right now I am ready to help.
Sign up for more info about Change Your Mindset. It’s not a commitment Karen, it’s just more information.
Book a Change Your Mindset Intro Call – I’m open for intro calls so get yourself booked in and I can tell you all about it (no obligation to buy after this).
Make 2024 the best year yet and sign up for Change Your Mindset right now. It’s currently £330 for anyone on my email list (£355 otherwise and will be £450 full price. Choose the Klarna option at checkout to split the cost over 3 monthly payments).
OR if 1:1 coaching feels like the best option for you, book a free 10 min intro call and let’s chat about your challenges.
