If you feel like your mindset is working against you that’s because sometimes it is.
For example..
“Don’t be a big head” – my grandparents gave me this gift (🙄).
And it’s been the gift that just keeps on giving.
Let me translate it for you:
“It is dangerous to be confident in yourself. Low self-esteem, negative self image and hiding who you are will keep you safe.”
Sound familiar? Many of us have a version of this burrowed into one of the walls of our mindset. It can surface as imposter syndrome, people pleasing or refusing to acknowledge your achievements in case there is some kind of instant negative karma for doing so.
It’s a mindset story. Fiction. But if you let it keep singing away in the background it will keep hacking away at your confidence and self-esteem. And use up all your energy on trying to meet the invisible standards of “other people.”
Mindset stories like this need to go
They are the reason we end up looking back on life and feeling dissatisfied, wondering why we held back or weren’t able to be fully ourselves.
The good news is they can be rewritten. Replaced with supportive and encouraging stories that give you freedom and hope. This is a big part of what we do in resilience coaching because your mindset stories directly influence how resilient you are.
Mindset over matter – the arm test
Have you ever done that game where someone tries to push down your arm and it’s much easier to do if you’re thinking a negative thought? If not then try it. Raise one arm up so that it’s at shoulder level. Think to yourself “I’m a weak and unworthy person” as someone tries to push your arm down. Then try that again with “I am a strong and powerful person.”
This illustrates very literally how the power of what’s in your mindset translates into real world experiences.
So are you ready to stop compromising your real world experiences with bad fiction?
Good. Because changing mindset stories is at the heart of what we will be doing in Change Your Mindset (starts 5th Feb). 6 weeks of focused mindset change where we will draw out all of the bad fiction that is making your life harder and replace it with what actually serves, supports and encourages you. Find out more about Change Your Mindset 2024 here – or join the programme today for £330 (payable in 1 or in 3 x monthly installments via Klarna**).
Are you to create a mindset that is working for you rather than against? Book an intro call to find out more about 1:1 resilience coaching and how this works.
**Klarna is a form of debt so please make sure you are comfortable with borrowing – and able to make repayments – if you’re going to choose that option.
