“Stop asking other people for their opinion.” Sounds controversial? But if you create one change in your life this March, use this confidence tip to make it.
Unless we’re talking about factual expertise (e.g. how do I change a plug) if you ask someone for their opinion you’ll get an answer based on:
Their fears
What they aren’t capable of
What they can’t do
Their biases
Their limiting beliefs
No matter how awesome and wise someone is, you’ll never get an objective opinion. It will always come filtered through their life experiences. It’s relevant to them – but it’s no use to you precisely because of that.
So, stop asking. That’s the confidence tip. Because you also undermine your own confidence in you every time you do it. You send yourself the message that you’re not the authority in your own life and undermine self-trust.
We need to train the muscle of our own instinct and having confidence in our own choices by asking ourselves for input instead of other people. Stop outsourcing responsibility for decisions and face up to any fear of failure and perfectionism (“I must make the right choice”) that is making us disempower ourselves like this.
You’re the only one who knows what’s best for you. Once you stop polling people and asking them to fill in the blanks created by your self doubt and start doing it yourself your confidence will soar.
