I started painting my flat recently. After over a year of thinking about it.
I’m usually someone who takes action. But I had an invisible limit in my head around this. When I thought about starting the painting there were things in the way – having the budget to pay someone to do it. Or waiting for a decorator friend to get back to me about how much paint I’d need if I did it myself. Or just the fact that I’d never painted anything other than my nails.
I feel like this is a form of perfectionism. Which is something I’m still working on releasing.
Not starting things until conditions are perfect and getting stuck on pause as a result.
I couldn’t really see I was doing this. It just remained in the “I’ll do it one day” category.. While every day I felt increasingly annoyed by my walls.
And then one day I suddenly had the thought to just start it and see how it goes.
I bought a single tin of paint.
Then a roller.
And then I just started painting.
And now it’s done.
Simple as that.
Do you ever do that?
Not start something as if it’s written in law that you can’t.
And then something happens and it’s like someone turns on the light, illuminating the path you’ve been trying to get on.
How to stop waiting
Resilience coaching is a lot like that for clients I’ve been told. Lightbulb moments galore.
When we change what we see in our minds as possible for ourselves we act differently.
Stop waiting.
Get stuck in.
I think we disempower ourselves waiting for circumstances or people to change – or to be perfect – when often all we really need to do is give ourselves the chance to tackle it.
Before I understood how my mind worked I was my own worst energy
I believed my feelings to be facts, I got stuck in fear paralysis for long periods of time and I allowed my inner critic and perfectionism to stop me from doing anything that had any risk or vulnerability in it (i.e. everything).
A lot of the lightbulb moments in coaching come just from having someone experienced question the thinking ruts we all end up in. We say things like “I can’t do that” and sometimes all it takes is someone else to question that as just a thought rather than a truth for you to open up to everything that’s actually possible for you.
And I’ll tell you a secret – anything is possible for you. The only thing that’s making you believe it’s not is you.
What are you waiting for?
Stop waiting and book your free intro call today.
