This was literally my response to everything: “yes but..” Negativity, negativity, negativity
I was so good at coming up with the negative perspective, the reasons not to try and I could see every angle of why something wouldn’t work out.
In fact, I visualised it not working out, felt what it would be like for it not to work out. It was like I had already lived the experience of it not working out. Which made me even more resistant to trying.
And this is one theory on how the brain works – your brain can’t tell the difference between a lived experience and an imagined one. Which is why I was so convinced by my reasons not to even try. And why I stayed stuck for so long.
Negativity is not all bad news
Does that sound like you?
Because, if so, the good news is that you’re already a powerful visualiser. You already know how to use your mind to motivate yourself. You’ve just been using it in the wrong direction – motivating yourself to stuckness instead of action.
So, how do we convert stuckness into action?
Start visualising the opposite. Imagine what a positive outcome would feel like. You don’t need to convince yourself the outcome will be positive (because who knows if it will before you even start something) but just imagine it. Explore the idea.
Doing that can feel a bit risky at first – like you’ll be punished for daring to hope. I get that. Do it anyway.
And, as always with any of my tips, I don’t expect you to be convinced by it right away. But give it a go. I’m pretty confident you’ll start noticing some changes.
Understanding how your mind works is a key part of resilience coaching. It’s not rocket science. It’s pretty simple. But once you’ve made sense of it, you’ll never feel stuck again.
Ready to make sense of it? Book a free intro call with me and let’s chat.
