Let’s have a chat about anger. How do you feel about it? Are you the kind of person who doesn’t want to be labelled ‘difficult’ and so you push it down inside? Maybe you don’t actually know how it feels to get truly angry because you’ve never allowed yourself to.
Anger is an emotion that is unacceptable for many of us. It feels so negative. Shameful. Scary, even.
Things are happening in the world right now that make me rage..
And over the past few months, for the first time, I’ve been rising to meet my anger with open arms. It’s felt kind of sacred.
A few years ago I couldn’t have comfortably done this. I was already too painfully aware of being filled with old, unexpressed anger that felt uncontrollable and shameful when it burst out of me. I had no idea that this needed to come out – that it could be expressed healthily -and I was desperately trying to keep it hidden.
When it’s stuck inside you, anger feels awkward, corrosive, tense, painful, resentful. But when it’s been expressed.. it leaves empty space for other things.
And that was the most surprising thing about letting my anger get big – my other emotions got bigger too. Positive emotions. Joy, excitement, love, forgiveness.
I did not expect that from anger..
In fact, I thought taking the cork out of the rage would lead to a bitter and lonely me. But it has actually opened me up to MORE connection – authentic connection where I’m not trying to hide who I am or how I feel.
And suddenly there is just so much more joy. Because in suppressing anger I’d been suppressing all my emotions (you can’t just pick and choose the ones you don’t want to feel, if one is muted they all are). And opening up to anger opened me up to another level of these good feelings.
Wouldn’t you love to stop having to suppress anger too?
What would change for you if you did?
Anger is healthy – and it’s so necessary. I would go so far as to say, when you channel it right, it’s empowering AF. All we really need to learn is how to feel it, embody it and express it differently for it to become an asset, rather than a liability.
There are so many tools that you can use to do this in a way that works for you. If you’re ready to uncork your rage (in a safe space) and free up room for the emotions you DO want to have then I can show you how.
And I promise you it’s worth it – life is all sorts of incredible on the other side.
Book an intro call with me and let’s chat about how to convert anger for good in your life.
