Confidence often feels solid when things are going well. Then, something in life changes and – poof! – off it goes.
The Difference Between Momentum and Real Confidence
Many people interpret a drop in confidence as proof they never truly had it. They assume they need more wins, more preparation, more validation. But confidence that depends on circumstances going smoothly is fragile by definition.
When something feels threatening, perception narrows. Attention focuses on what could go wrong. A neutral comment feels critical. A delay feels like rejection.
It isn’t that confidence has vanished. Stress has altered how you are interpreting reality – and your version of confidence isn’t set up to deal with that.
Building Confidence That Holds Under Pressure
Real confidence is built on self-trust. Trust that even if you make a mistake, you can recover. Trust that one wobble does not define you.
This kind of confidence comes from practising new responses in challenging moments. Catching the spiral early. Choosing not to turn against yourself when something goes wrong.
The more often you practise that response, the more stable your confidence becomes.
It also comes from removing all the things that undermine your confidence on a daily basis. The inner critic, procrastination, a lack of action and a nervous system in constant survival mode, being just a few of them.
If you want to build that stability intentionally, that is a core part of the work inside Change Your Mindset, my 6-week mindset course that starts on April 14th. We’ll be looking at the building blocks of confidence, as well as how to remove those things that make it so hard to have. It’s life-changing stuff – join now.
