It can be incredibly painful to admit to yourself that you feel lost. But it’s something that can happen at any age.
- Maybe you’re a mum who has put everything into those first few years and feel lost in your body, mind and self as a result.
- Maybe you’ve never really known what you want from life and now finding out feels urgent.
- Maybe you are living a life that doesn’t feel like you can be who you really are in it.
- Maybe you know you have ADHD and don’t know how to feel at home in your life anymore as a result.
- Maybe you’re realising you want to live your life differently to how ‘other people’ do but you’re stuck in fear of judgment and not able to take any action.
If you’ve lost yourself – there is a way back
Finding your way back to yourself can be an incredibly joyful and liberating process. It may be that you have never really been able to live as who you truly are for whatever reason, so you don’t even know what you’d be finding your way back to. But I promise you that everything you need you already have. It’s all already inside you, albeit maybe hidden away or long-ignored. And all you need to do to feel less lost, and more certain and confident in life, is to remove what’s currently in the way and then start pouring your focus and energy into the parts of you that need your attention. That’s a big part of the process of resilience coaching – rediscovering this essence of you and relighting your spark again.
Your uniqueness is the light that guides you back
Authenticity work forms a firm foundation for resilience coaching because having clarity and confidence about who you are is so empowering, energising and comforting. It’s what you need to do right now if you feel lost. So many of us are walking around the world with a big gap inside us where the information about who we are and what we need should be. We’ve filled it with social conditioning, what our parents did, other people’s expectations, people pleasing, shame or constant anxiety. And that feels painful, empty and frightening.
The alternative to this is to fill that gap with YOU instead. Which means defining what your values are (the things that matter most to you), getting clear on your purpose, focusing your energy on your passions, working with your strengths and weaknesses, reflecting on your life experiences and creating a clear and beautiful picture of who you really are. It will change what you believe you’re capable of. It will give you inherent direction in life. And it will massively reduce anxiety.
Admitting you feel lost is the first big step
So many of us just walk around like this for years with this discomfort. We numb it with alcohol or dating apps, food or shopping but there is always that ache instead for a life that feels more genuine, aligned and exciting, to feel really at home in your own skin and understand who you are and why you do what you do. It never goes until you turn the focus inwards and answer some questions about yourself. And the first big step to doing that is admitting that there is a problem in the first place. Admitting that you feel lost. That things aren’t right. And that even if it doesn’t feel like “the right time” to do something about it, there probably will never be a perfect time. Or maybe the fact that you’re thinking about it right now indicates that this is exactly the right moment.
Feeling lost isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that your intuition is trying to talk to you – and that you have the strength to admit a lack of alignment. The next step is taking action to change that – which is what resilience coaching is all about. Authenticity is a key part of my resilience model because it is so vital for how we function and the behaviours and habits we have. If you’d like to know what it feels like to live authentically then book a free intro call and I will talk you through what’s involved in this part of the coaching process.
