Don’t look for the positives.
That seems to be what we think reframing is. But if you’ve had a tough week and it’s making you feel all sorts of things, the last thing you need is to try and force yourself to see something that you don’t actually believe is there. That’s not how you reframe things – it’s just invalidating your own feelings.
How to reframe effectively
Use the perspective test instead.
Look at this week through a longer perspective. Are you going to still care about what happened in
A week
A month
By Christmas
Next year
In a decade
At the end of your life.
?
Things that feel really heavy and huge in the moment almost always lose their impact when you step out of them and look back. They then become just one of many events instead of taking up all the space in your head. Next time you feel overwhelmed by recent events give the perspective test a try.
Changing your perspective on something hard is one of the simplest ways to introduce more ease into your life. And why wouldn’t you want to do that?
If you’d like to learn all the tips and tricks on how to reframe situations and see them in a way that empowers you, rather than making you feel stuck, book a free intro call with me and we’ll talk it through.
